556: Oliver Burkeman | The Antidote to Positive Thinking

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🗓️ 13 October 2016

⏱️ 45 minutes

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Oliver Burkeman (@oliverburkeman) is the author of The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking; he joins us to explain why it's healthier to accentuate -- rather than ignore -- the negative. The Cheat Sheet: How does a pessimistic skeptic of positive thinking culture find himself pumped up with 12,000 other people at a motivational seminar in Texas? How can the avoidance of negative thinking make us unhappy? Are the tenets of the Ironic Process Theory slowly driving you insane? Negative Visualization: a healthier way to worry with purpose. Affirmations often go beyond just being silly -- they can actually be harmful. And so much more... Don't like to shop for clothes? Let Five Four Club be your personal fashion stylist. Complete a short style quiz and receive a monthly curated package at your doorstep! Go to fivefourclub.com and use promo code CHARM at sign-up to get 50% off your first package! Working with other people? Struggling to keep everyone on the same page? We use Basecamp 3 at The Art of Charm, and it's the only platform you're going to need to organize all of your company's projects and communication in one place -- Art of Charm listeners can try Basecamp 3 for free here! Whether you're a lady or a gent, you don't need to know what MicroModal fabric is to enjoy the comfort of MeUndies; you just need to wear them -- support this show (and yourself) with MeUndies here for 20% off! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/oliver-burkeman-antidote-positive-thinking-episode-556/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming!

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0:00.0	Anyone who's been seriously depressed or knows someone who's seriously depressed knows that
0:04.1	Share up and look on the bright side is like just completely useless advice
0:10.8	Welcome to the art of charm. I'm Jordan Harbinger. Today. We're talking with Oliver Birkman author of the antidote
0:17.0	Happiness for people who can't stand positive thinking you should listen to this episode if you want to understand how avoiding
0:23.0	Negative thinking is actually a big part of what's making us unhappy in the first place something called
0:28.1	ironic process theory and why it's probably slowly driving you insane a tool called negative visualization
0:34.5	Which is essentially an effective and useful form of worry but with some key differences that make this a much healthier practice
0:41.5	So enjoy this one with Oliver Birkman and by the way if you're new to the show
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1:08.8	You can find full show notes for this and all previous episodes of the show. All right. Here's Oliver Birkman
1:16.2	Well, I'll say first of all this book. It's pretty heavy duty and it's funny because I thought oh the antidote
1:22.7	Great people who ate positive thinking. I'm definitely in that category
1:26.1	I heard about this for my friend Jenny Blake who was just on the show recently
1:29.4	So I expected kind of one thing right and I got this book and I'm reading it
1:33.7	I'm like all right great and I noticed the reviews of the book and the right ups of the book
1:37.8	Avoid a lot of the deeper philosophy that I found in the book about
1:42.2	Stoicism and a Buddhism and things like that so it was not bait and switch because you didn't do it
1:47.6	But I expected one thing and I got another do you hear that a lot about this book?
1:51.5	Occasionally. Yeah, I think I am out to try to blow your mind in some way
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