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And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach,

Para Lowenthal.

Hello my chickens, how are you guys? I am amazing. That's what I'm going with. I'm

amazing. I have a lot of feelings about the fact that it's dark outside so early. I have thoughts. I have a lot of thoughts about it.

September, man. Just, it's a lot. There's a lot going on. All right, so all that being said I do not have a segue to today's topic.

It's just we're just going to keep going. But what I want to talk about today is actually something kind of a little hard, let's put it this way, it's a little more heartwarming, a little as we turn into fall and things start to get colder and it gets darker earlier.

We just want to kind of create that warm and loving atmosphere for ourselves.

And so I want to talk about friendship today.

And I think friendship is a fascinating topic because when you think about it,

friends are kind of our first like voluntary relationship, right?

So we're born into our families and we don't have a lot of say over that.

But as soon as we start encountering other little kids, I like that I said we don't have a lot of say over it.

We have no say over it, at least in my

worldview I think in some people's worldview we choose our families. My worldview, we

don't have any say over it. But as soon as we start encountering other little

kids out in the world we start developing

friendships so we start creating voluntary connections with other people and that

means we also start experiencing all the positive emotions that come along with that connection.

And we start experiencing all the negative emotions and frustration and sadness that come along with other people not

behaving the way we want or not wanting to be our friends. Because that's what

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