472. Going Back to a Cheating Ex, How to Get Over Being Ghosted and Moving Cities in a Search For Love
Do You F*cking Mind?
Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa - Neuroscientist and Mindset Coach
4.9 • 914 Ratings
🗓️ 10 February 2026
⏱️ 37 minutes
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Summary
In this Head Noise episode, I answer three listener questions that sit right at the intersection of hope, attachment, and self-betrayal the kind of decisions that feel impossible when you’re emotionally involved.
We talk about:
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Whether you should leave a life you love to move cities in the hope of finding a partner
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What to do when your cheating ex wants you back, is in therapy, and swears they’ve changed, especially when you’ve already moved on with someone else
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How to emotionally detach and move forward after being slowly ghosted by someone you thought things were going really well with
This episode breaks down the psychology behind:
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Making life decisions from loneliness vs self-trust
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Sex addiction, and the difference between change and intention
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Why ghosting hurts so much
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Choosing yourself without spiralling into guilt or doubt
As always, Head Noise episodes are about cutting through the emotional fog and helping you see what’s actually happening, so you can make decisions that protect your peace and self-respect.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello, beautiful beans and welcome to your Wednesday head noise episode. |
| 0:14.0 | So on this episode, we are doing an email head noise thing. |
| 0:19.0 | We're going to do, I'm going to go through ideally three. I've got three questions |
| 0:23.4 | here that I want to go through. Maybe I'll fit in a fourth, but I'll be thrilled if I get through |
| 0:27.9 | three questions. And then of course, tune in for Friday where there will be more head noise |
| 0:33.1 | questions. Now, I have been banging on about, I am going to do more voice message questions, |
| 0:38.6 | but Shania normally is the one that kind of goes through them and, you know, brings them and sends |
| 0:43.5 | them through to me, the voice note questions. And we've just been kind of like flat out the last |
| 0:50.7 | couple of weeks with the brunch, organizing the brunch and then organizing, of course, |
| 0:55.1 | the live show and all of that. |
| 0:56.3 | So now we're finally, |
| 0:58.0 | finally settling into kind of a bit of a good rhythm of the year. |
| 1:02.4 | So I will be doing voice message questions. |
| 1:05.0 | Hopefully, on actually this Friday episode would be the voice question. |
| 1:08.2 | So if you're someone that submitted a voice question, |
| 1:10.5 | your answer will hopefully be coming up very soon. Now, let's begin. We're going to start with |
| 1:18.1 | the first one. I will not be giving a life update today. All is well. Everything's fabulous. Let's |
| 1:23.4 | start with the first question. Hi, Alexis. Absolutely love your content. I've been listening on and off since the start of the first question. Hi Alexis. Absolutely love your content. I've been listening |
| 1:29.8 | on and off since the start of the podcast and I think it's the best thing ever. Thank you. |
| 1:34.4 | So I have a very messy situation. I'd love some advice on please. Apologies in advance for the long |
| 1:40.6 | story. I actually don't think it's that long so you're doing well. I've been in a long |
| 1:45.4 | term. I had been in a long term relationship. It was very stable, great, calm, all the |
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