465. Coaching Hotline: Hating Your Career Choice & Feeling Empty Inside
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Kara Loewentheil
4.6 • 5.6K Ratings
🗓️ 10 February 2026
⏱️ 13 minutes
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Summary
Do you ever look at your life on paper and think, I should feel proud of this, while inside you feel trapped, empty, or quietly panicked? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a question from a listener who hates her career choice and feels crushed by debt, regret, and the belief that she ruined her life by making the “wrong” decision.
In the second question, I address what it means to feel numb or disconnected inside and why that emptiness can make thought work feel pointless or hopeless. This episode will help you see how your thoughts, not your past decisions or your emotional state, are creating the suffering, and how learning to question what you’re making your circumstances and feelings mean is the key to reclaiming agency, clarity, and self-trust.
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The Future Coach: How to Succeed as a Life Coach Today, Tomorrow, and Beyond is finally here. Every other week, you'll hear practical advice about becoming a coach, improving your coaching skills, and antidotes to the most common concerns, questions, and brain drama that come up with this work, whether you're just starting out or you're years into your career. If you want to find out more, you can find it anywhere you listen to podcasts and hit that follow button.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to unfuck your brain. I'm your host Kara Lowentile, master-certified coach, and founder of the School of New Feminist Thought. I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence, and create a life on your own terms, one that you're truly excited to live. |
| 0:21.3 | Let's go. |
| 0:24.8 | Welcome to this week's coaching hotline episode where I answer real questions from real listeners |
| 0:31.2 | and coach you from afar. |
| 0:33.6 | If you want to submit your question for consideration, go to unfuck your brain.com forward slash |
| 0:39.5 | coaching hotline, all one word, or text your email to plus one 347-997-1784. And when you get |
| 0:48.7 | prompted for the code word, it's coaching hotline, all one word. Let's get into this week's questions. |
| 0:55.8 | Here's the first question. I think a lot of you can identify with this, even if the details |
| 1:00.3 | aren't quite your life. I have a career that I do not enjoy in the health field and over |
| 1:05.7 | $170,000 in student loan debt for my doctor degree. I'm the first person in my family to attend college, |
| 1:12.2 | and I think I went to grad school to make them happy and not me. My question is, how can I bring |
| 1:17.4 | myself to feeling positive, proud, and happy when I do not enjoy my choice? My thoughts are, |
| 1:22.9 | I ruin my life. I should have given my choice of profession, income, and debt amount more thought. |
| 1:27.8 | I am a prisoner for the next six years while I repay my debt. I can't afford to go back to school. |
| 1:33.1 | I can't afford to have kids with all this debt. I can't go part-time if needed if I have kids. |
| 1:37.7 | Due to my loan repayment terms, I need to be full-time. My feelings have ranged from anger to |
| 1:41.8 | depression, anxiety, and helplessness. Please send help. |
| 1:45.4 | All right, help is here. |
| 1:48.3 | So a couple of things that stand out to me about this question and why I wanted to answer it. |
| 1:53.5 | The first one is that the question asker is reporting, I do not enjoy my choice as if that's a circumstance. |
| 2:01.4 | And so I think that she is doing what a lot of you try to do, which is you have negative |
| 2:06.3 | feelings about something. You intellectually understand it's just your thoughts, but you don't |
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