What does it mean to trust yourself? Most of us unconsciously think that it means knowing that we're

always making the right decision, knowing that our future self will behave perfectly and carry out

everything our current self wants. The problem is that this is an impossible standard. Your brain

cannot predict the future with 100% accuracy. So if you tell yourself that certainty

about making the right decision, about how you'll think, feel, and act in the future is a

requirement for self-trust, you're setting yourself up to never be able to trust yourself.

And that is going to erode your confidence and your ability to create what you want in life. So on this episode,

we're going to get into what self-trust really is. I'm going to give you a much better definition of

it. Talk about why it matters. And I'm going to give you some specific concrete steps you can

take to start creating more of it. Let's get into it. Welcome to unfuck your brain. I'm your host, Kara Lowentile, master-certified coach, and founder of the School of New

Feminist Thub.

I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence, and create a life on

your own terms, one that you're truly excited to live.

Let's go.

All right, so let's just start with why self-trust matters. Why am I talking about this? So one initial reason is that a lack of self-trust just does not

feel good. It's painful to tell yourself you can't trust yourself. And it's a form of self-criticism or even self-abuse that many of us don't even spot. We don't even think it's negative. We think it's like a weather report that we're just reporting that we can't trust ourselves, just like we're reporting that it's raining outside right now. We don't even realize how negative and kind of cruel it is to constantly tell

ourselves that we just can't rely on ourselves and we just can't trust ourselves. So that's bad

enough, but it's not just the emotional suffering that is the issue. It's that a lack of self-trust

holds us back in life. And that's because of the relationship between self-trust and confidence.

One of the major reasons that we don't feel confident in making decisions or taking risks is that

we believe we can't trust ourselves. We can't trust ourselves to make the right decision. We can't

trust ourselves to know that it will work out perfectly. We can't trust ourselves to never feel regret.

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