451. Coaching Hotline: Social Media Thoughts & Boundaries with Mom
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Kara Loewentheil
4.6 • 5.5K Ratings
🗓️ 23 December 2025
⏱️ 10 minutes
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Summary
In this Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions that are all too familiar if you’ve ever gotten sucked into social media comparison or felt like you’re constantly navigating emotional landmines with family. The first is about how to stop feeling awful about yourself every time you scroll through Instagram, comparing yourself to others or feeling like you’re not doing enough.
The second question is about dealing with a family member who’s set boundaries that leave you feeling rejected. This episode will teach you how to separate your feelings from someone else’s behavior, take full responsibility for your emotional life, and stop outsourcing your worth to others.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to unfuck your brain. I'm your host Kara Lowentile, master-certified coach, and founder of the School of New Feminist Thought. I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence, and create a life on your own terms, one that you're truly excited to live. |
| 0:21.3 | Let's go. |
| 0:24.8 | Welcome to this week's coaching hotline episode where I answer real questions from real listeners |
| 0:31.2 | and coach you from afar. |
| 0:33.6 | If you want to submit your question for consideration, go to unfuck your brain.com forward slash |
| 0:39.5 | coaching hotline, all one word, or text your email to plus one 347-997-1784. And when you get |
| 0:48.7 | prompted for the code word, it's coaching hotline, all one word. Let's get into this week's questions. |
| 0:55.5 | So our first question is about social media, but this is actually going to be great advice for |
| 1:01.6 | anything that you find quote unquote triggers you. Okay, so the question says, |
| 1:07.0 | how can I be on social media without feeling just awful about myself? I get caught in comparison |
| 1:12.5 | idas easily with thoughts like, oh, that was such a clever post and mine sucked. I should spend more |
| 1:18.0 | time commenting and posting things of value. And I feel so negative when it comes to hearing about how |
| 1:22.9 | people are crushing it in their coaching businesses. I just want to curl up into a ball and hide. |
| 1:28.6 | The feeling is shame with all those thoughts. Then I shut down, avoid social media, hate on it and myself. I would love |
| 1:33.4 | to be able to post myself and appreciate others post from a place of fullness and self-sufficiency. |
| 1:38.3 | But I'm enough. In fact, this is my dream for all areas of my life. Okay, so let's just pick one |
| 1:43.4 | area of life at a time to work on. |
| 1:46.0 | Here's what I want to suggest that you do. It's sort of like exposure therapy. |
| 1:50.7 | So if social media sets all of this off, obviously I don't think we should just avoid circumstances |
| 1:56.3 | about which we have thoughts. That's what we always try to do is we try to change the sea. |
| 2:02.1 | At the same time, |
| 2:06.5 | just constantly going on social media, telling yourself you should coach yourself or change your thoughts and then not is not feeling good either. So what I would recommend is that you schedule time |
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