439: 3 Secrets for Calmer, Happier Kids // Ralphie Jacobs

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🗓️ 21 July 2025

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Ever found yourself stuck in a cycle of constant correction, nagging, lecturing, or repeating yourself while your kids seem to tune you out? It happens to almost every parent at some point. In the moment, it can feel like the only option… but learning a new way of responding can be a game-changer. Today’s guest, Ralphie Jacobs of Simply On Purpose, shares three powerful tools that can shift the emotional climate in your home by focusing on connection, encouragement, and play (rather than punishment or control). She teaches that one of the most effective ways to improve behavior is also one of the simplest: notice what your kids are doing right. Tune in to learn: 💡 The parenting habit that’s scientifically proven to reduce misbehavior by 80% 💡 What to say instead of “stop that” when your child is doing something you don’t like 💡 The surprising way to turn a meltdown around - using humor, imagination, or even Altoids This episode is a beautiful example of the fifth principle in my Self-Assured Motherhood Framework, Gather the Good, which is all about learning to see and savor the small moments of beauty in your day. Because what you focus on grows. And when you start focusing on the good in your kids, your home, and yourself… it changes everything. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: Motherhood is always evolving (and so are we!). If you’re looking for a simple way to check in with yourself and see where you’re currently thriving and where you might want more support, take my free Self-Assured Motherhood Framework Assessment. Related Episodes: 304: Motherhood is hard. This helps. 426: What to Do When You Don’t Like Your Kid (Even Though You Love Them!) 434: How to Actually Enjoy Summer as a Mom Episode Sponsors: K12: Go to K12.com/TAKEAWAYS today to find a tuition-free K12-powered school near you and enroll now. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. GoPure: For a limited time, our listeners get 25% off goPure with code 3in30 at checkout. Just head to gopurebeauty.com, use code 3in30, and you’re all set. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

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0:00.0	This episode is sponsored by K-12, tuition-free online accredited public schools for kindergarten through 12th grade.
0:07.7	My friends, I know most of us are in the thick of summer, but as another school year is fast approaching,
0:13.0	I want to acknowledge the mental load parents have as we consider our children's unique needs.
0:18.3	You may have questions like, is my child getting the support they need
0:21.4	with the resources that our school has available? Is the pacing right for them? If you're looking for a
0:26.6	change, K-12 powered schools might be a fit. They are tuition-free, online public schools for kindergarten
0:33.4	through 12th grade. These aren't traditional homeschool programs where you'd be responsible for
0:38.0	teaching everything yourself. K-12 has state certified teachers who specialize in online learning
0:43.7	and use engaging tools and technology to bring lessons to life. Join the more than 3 million
0:49.3	families who've been served by K-12 and power your student to reach their full potential now.
0:54.6	Go to K-12.com slash takeaways today to find a tuition-free K-12-powered school near you and enroll now.
1:02.7	That's the letter K, the number 12.com slash takeaways.
1:07.9	K-12.com slash takeaways.
1:10.6	Thank you. takeaways. K-12.com slash takeaways.
1:22.0	Happy summer, my friend. I'm Rachel, and this is 3 and 30, a podcast for moms that gives you three actionable takeaways in every 30-minute episode to help you love your motherhood
1:27.0	as much as you love your children.
1:29.8	Today's episode is part of a special series that I'm doing this summer all about my six
1:34.2	principles of self-assured motherhood, or the Sam Six, as I like to call it.
1:39.5	These six principles have truly changed my motherhood experience and the motherhood experiences of
1:45.8	hundreds of moms who've gone through my self-assured motherhood program. And I wanted to give
1:50.3	you a taste of that via the podcast. My SAM program opens once a year in the fall and I hope
1:56.5	you'll consider joining us then. But in the meantime, this series of episodes should help you to have a more
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