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Hi, this is Janet Lansbury and welcome to Unruffled.

This week I'm going to be responding to a parent who's concerned about her four and three

quarters daughter and how she seems to have aggressive responses to the mother's limits.

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Dear Janet, like many parents when I found your blog,

I felt like I finally had the guidance to be the type of parent I want to be.

I've read your posts about defiant and strong-willed children.

My daughter will be five in several months and she's been far more emotional and easily

upset than usual.

I'm an only parent and my daughter and I are very close, but there's been a pattern of

behavior developing between us when she's testing her boundaries.

For example, she'll climb on top of the kitchen counter.

I'll tell her to get down.

She then typically makes it clear she knows she's not supposed to be on the counter and

is not willing to get down.

Then I'll gently remove her from the counter and she'll either one tell me that I have

somehow hurt her by removing her from the counter to try to hurt me by hitting or pinching

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