My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook or crow to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there.

Just to bring it out. This is what

compels me to compel them. And I will do it by whatever means necessary. Welcome to the Black

Girl's Hill podcast where we talk about healing our intimacy disorders and resolve trauma

and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then

others. Every episode, we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns

and grow in your self-worth. I'm Sheena Lachay, love addiction coach and trauma specialist.

Let's begin. Hello, hello and welcome back.

So today we are talking about the strength of taking your power back in the realm of no

contact.

So I help women who are constantly in relationships with people who undervalue them.

The pattern is being with people who are unavailable to them.

And no matter what they try,

no matter how much they may try to take breaks from them, to try to date different types of people,

to try to work on their trauma. Somehow, whenever they step their toe out into the realm of

relationships and dating, they find the same patterns. Maybe at first it starts off looking a little

bit different. And so they think that there's progress but ultimately it ends up

being the same thing and when it comes to no contact that is a tool used when you find that you are

constantly in these relationships and you need to just take a reset you need to reformat your

relationship with yourself so we're talking about this today not only because it's important topic, but I'm in the middle of writing a book for no contact. I have a special

process that I teach them to do no contact specifically for 90 days and a set of different tasks

and tools that they do during that 90 days to finally break the patterns of trauma bonds in

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