#329: When You’re Too Busy to Find Love
Black Girls Heal
Shena Lashey
4.8 • 1.8K Ratings
🗓️ 18 March 2026
⏱️ 48 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, Shena shares a powerful live discussion on what it really means to pursue love when life feels overwhelmingly busy, especially if your schedule, past heartbreak, or emotional patterns are holding you back from meaningful connection.
She breaks down the deeper reasons behind “being too busy” for love and offers three transformative mindset shifts - helping you prioritize your emotional well-being, let people in, and redefine relationships as nourishing rather than draining while sharing practical insights you can apply right away to build self-worth and healthier connections.
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| 0:00.0 | My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook or crow to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there. |
| 0:20.0 | Just to bring it out. This is what |
| 0:22.1 | compels me to compel them. And I will do it by whatever means necessary. Welcome to the Black |
| 0:30.2 | Girls Hill podcast where we talk about healing our intimacy disorders and resolve trauma and building a |
| 0:36.2 | healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others. |
| 0:39.5 | Every episode, we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns and grow |
| 0:45.1 | in your self-work. I'm Sheena Lachay, love addiction coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin. |
| 0:53.4 | Hello, hello, and welcome to the Black Girl Tale podcast. |
| 0:57.0 | Y'all, this is the first time in a while that we have had an extended episode. |
| 1:01.9 | So if you've been with me for a while, you know that it was the norm for our podcast episodes to be 45 minutes minimum. |
| 1:08.1 | However, as I transition to putting the podcast on YouTube, I've been very |
| 1:13.1 | intentional with making sure that I'm more direct when it comes to what the points are. Still |
| 1:18.3 | giving all the info that I can, but making it shorter because it's YouTube. I prefer shorter |
| 1:23.7 | YouTube videos. When I'm watching YouTube videos, even if it's someone who I really like, it takes a lot for me to watch a 45-minute video. |
| 1:32.2 | But this was longer because I actually combined the best of both worlds on both Instagram and on YouTube. |
| 1:37.9 | I've been going live and talking about all these topics in the Q&A version. |
| 1:41.8 | So I have been able to teach the concepts and also answer |
| 1:44.9 | people's questions along the way. So that is what today's episode is. It is the audio of our most |
| 1:49.7 | recent live where I talked about what to do when you find that you were too busy to find love. |
| 1:55.0 | If you were someone who wants to be in intimate connections, but there are other competing priorities, |
| 2:00.3 | other things that are more |
| 2:01.2 | important right now, especially if you're not quite sure if it's going to provide the value |
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