My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook or crow to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there.

Just to bring it out. This is what

compels me to compel them. And I will do it by whatever means necessary. Welcome to the Black

Girls Hill podcast where we talk about healing our intimacy disorders and resolve trauma

and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others.

Every episode, we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns and grow

in your self-work. I'm Sheena Lachay, love addiction coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin.

So can you be a love addicts and love avoidance?

We're going to talk about that today.

So when you're a love addicts, you are consistently attracted to the wrong relationships

and you continue to stay in those relationships in spite of the consequences.

So the definition I always gave is the persistent obsession of a person, a relationship,

or the fantasy of who you think that personal relationship can be

and mistaking it for love. Love avoidance is the persistent putting up of walls to avoid being

emotionally intruded upon. So what you find is you continue to create space between yourself and

others in intimate relationships. It could be friendships, it could be family members, and especially

romantic partnerships. That space creation doesn't always look like emotionally withdrawing or shutting down.

Sometimes it could look at you being busy all the time.

You finding excuses for why the relationship won't work.

You picking fights with them.

You creating crises where none exists to try to test the relationship.

Those type of things.

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