32. Ask Better Questions

UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

Kara Loewentheil

Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Education, Self-improvement, Philosophy, Society & Culture

4.6 • 5.5K Ratings

🗓️ 7 June 2018

⏱️ 12 minutes

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Summary

This week, I want to teach you one of the best tools that I learned from my coach – the power of asking better questions. Join me as I explain how asking dead-end questions is affecting your brain and show you how to ask questions that stimulate your brain to find answers that will move you toward goals.

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0:00.0	Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain
0:16.3	and get what you want in life.
0:18.6	And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach,
0:24.7	Kara Loyenthyle.
0:27.8	Hello my chickens, So it is summer. I am recording this from Dallas and it's
0:37.6	105 degrees here which I just don't think that that's acceptable. It's so hot. So I've only been in
0:47.0	Dallas for about 24 hours but so far it is very Dallas. My hotel has a cowboy hat in it in case I left mine at home and there is a
0:58.1	quote from President Bush on the mirror and on the ceiling. So that's definitely a first. So I'm here getting ready to
1:06.8	teach at the Life Coach School Training which is awesome. I'm super excited to be here
1:11.9	with my fellow coaches and my teacher and you know I
1:15.5	trained here a few years ago so it's really kind of wild to be on the other side of it.
1:20.4	So today I want to teach you one of the best tools I learned for my
1:24.4	teacher and that is the power of asking better questions. Most of us are
1:30.7	unconsciously asking ourselves terrible dead-end questions all the time.
1:36.7	Like why do things have to be this way?
1:39.2	Why is it so hard to change?
1:41.8	Why doesn't anyone love me? Why are my colleagues so terrible? Why are my parents
1:46.8	so critical? Why has my kids so misbehaved? What could I have done differently? What would life be like if I had not left that job or taken that job or not left that partner or gotten married or gotten divorced or if I made different decisions?
2:01.0	These questions do nothing for you. They're essentially unanswerable and the problem
2:07.9	is that they accept your premises and your thoughts as true. Your problem isn't that you can't figure out why your boss is an asshole.
2:18.7	Your problem is that you think he's an asshole in the first place and you believe that thought. Your problem isn't that you can't figure out why you're not married. Your problem is that you think it's a problem that you're not married and that it means something about you.
2:34.3	Because these kinds of questions,
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