And the other part is called a huddle moment, right? Like in sports, right? Football, right? Or the mound visit, right? You get to it and you go, hey, team huddle. Here's what we need right now. One, two, three, break. And it's a buy-in to this moment. It's a buy-in to what needs to get done. The shoulds have to be there where things don't get done. Life will fall apart. So we have to have the shoulds. And the other person who's like, oh, you're so annoying. Grow up. It's your house. Grow up. It's

your family. Step up. I'm Amy. And I'm Abby. And as women, we are constantly comparing

ourselves to others. But your life isn't supposed to look

like hers. Being your best self means standing firm in your decisions and always being willing to

grow with a purpose. We get vulnerable and real with an honest look into the challenges and triumphs we

all face. Every woman listening gets the opportunity

to choose what life looks like for herself. We're excited to have Ellie Weinstein back on the

podcast today. It's always really good to have a male's perspective, especially when it comes to relationships.

And if you want to listen back to his first episode, it's episode 182. And in this one, he really talks about sharing the mental load after having kids.

So especially if you're in the postpartum period with little tiny kids, this is going to be a great one.

But today, we are really focusing in on more of Amy and I's

current season of life. We know many of you are along for the journey with us. There's just so many

good exercises you can do with your partner. There are so many different questions that you can

ask, things that we haven't tried, but are definitely going to try now. And also a really big

piece on gratitude and just how the simplest of things can really

lead to the biggest of changes. And as a final note, we encourage you to send this one on to your

partner or to anybody who might be struggling with some of these things. Sometimes it's just nice

to be able to hear it from a guy. So with that, let's get into our episode with Ellie.

Ellie, we've had you on in the podcast before and we talked mostly about the postpartum period. And today we're going to go with that next days of life. We're Amy and I are now, where a lot of our listeners are. And in your new book, you talk about this Holy Trinity. And you talk about the expectations, perception, and reality. So how does this come into play for parents in the season of life that we're in?

Oh, my goodness.

This is like the reason I started the book off in this way is to me,

when I started like thinking about this,

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