271. Dating Burnout and the Patterns Behind It ft. Jordanne Sculler
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast
Ali Jackson
3.9 • 712 Ratings
🗓️ 27 April 2026
⏱️ 60 minutes
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Summary
Jordanne Sculler, licensed therapist, joins Ali to talk about dating burnout from the inside out. Rather than pointing to apps or circumstances as the culprit, Jordanne breaks down the internal patterns that are really driving exhaustion in dating, including the productivity trap of treating dating like a to-do list, people-pleasing and self-abandonment, and what it actually looks like to break a cycle that isn't working. The conversation gets practical with Jordanne's "do something different" framework, and Ali shares her own experience recognizing these patterns in both dating and long-term relationships.
In Updates, Ali shares a scam alert after coming dangerously close to being scammed in a two-part scheme. She also recaps a big week of consulting wins, a full-circle alumni event at her school's centennial celebration, and a return to the bar where she met Skyline two years ago.
This week's Media Mention is @blussomly on TikTok and Instagram. Her name is Luise, she has a master's in psychology, and her content is built around teaching the psychology behind stoicism in an accessible, applicable way. Her series "stoicism but make it cute" is worth a full deep dive, and the video Ali references, about the gap between expectation and reality and the difference between something being different versus wrong, is pinned to her Instagram.
Where to find Jordanne: On Instagram @jordannesculler and at www.jordannescullerlmhc.com.
Timestamps: Jordanne joins us at around minute 20.
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| 0:00.0 | Right? Like I always say even if something is comfortable doesn't mean it's good for us or it's healthy, right? |
| 0:07.3 | Doing the hard things are the things that are going to really change us. |
| 0:25.8 | Hello and welcome to another episode of Finding Mr. Hide the podcast. |
| 0:34.4 | I'm your host, Allie Jackson, and I am bringing you my positive and practical approach to dating relationships and other stuff about life based on my lived experience. |
| 0:35.9 | Thank you for being here. |
| 0:39.4 | Today, I am sitting down in our guest interview section with Jordane Scholar. She's a licensed therapist, and I just really think y'all are |
| 0:44.6 | going to love this one. We're talking about dating burnout, but from a little bit of a different |
| 0:49.5 | angle in terms of like, what really drives burnout and what she sees as a therapist from her clients, |
| 0:57.5 | what is really driving their burnout. And part of that is the productivity trap that we see |
| 1:03.0 | in dating, people pleasing patterns, and what it actually looks like to do something different |
| 1:08.6 | so that you can start breaking cycles that really aren't |
| 1:11.1 | working for you. There's a lot of really practical, actionable stuff in this one. |
| 1:16.5 | I just, like I said, I think you're going to love her. I think you're going to love it. |
| 1:19.4 | But first updates. We haven't done this in a while, but this week we have a scam alert, |
| 1:24.5 | everyone. We have a scam alert. I was almost scammed. I came within |
| 1:29.7 | seconds of being scammed. I'm not going to lie, I feel a little bit like an 80-year-old |
| 1:35.2 | grandmother in recounting this story, like that you're like, Grandma, how did you almost |
| 1:40.0 | get scammed in this way? It seems so obvious. But it's, there's an interesting sort of twist to the |
| 1:46.9 | way in which I almost got scammed that I, that really, honestly put me in a vulnerable place to |
| 1:52.4 | have it happen. So here's what happened. So earlier last week, like at the beginning of this |
| 1:58.6 | week, this past week, my, I had some unauthorized |
| 2:02.6 | charges on one of my credit cards, the one that I used the most often, I chase Sapphire |
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