So the more ideas, perspectives we can bring in, the better we're going to be able to see this

magnificent animal in front of us.

But if we're not willing to consider our partner's point of view at all, we're just going to be

standing there in the butt of an elephant.

Nobody wants that. Hello and welcome to another episode of Finding Mr. Haight the podcast.

I'm your host, Dally Jackson, and I am bringing you my positive and practical approach to dating relationships and a whole lot else from my lived experience. Thank you for being

here. I'm excited to chat with you this week. If you are watching the video on YouTube,

you can see that I have my curls out, and it's my second attempt at my new curly routine.

And I'm even happier with it this time on day two. I did it yesterday. So I'm super happy about that.

Before we get into updates, this week's guest is Monica Tanner. I absolutely loved my

conversation with her. She is a marriage coat and she is the author of a book called

Bad Marriage Advice, which I found out on our recording, the background of, which I didn't

realize, was that she was

writing a letter to her son when he told her that he was ready to get married, or getting

married. And she was telling him all of the advice that she had and mostly like debunking

advice that other people have. And that was sort of the basis of the book. It turned into this

whole thing where she talks about relationship myths that very well-meaning people are passing

down like their gospel. And we go through a bunch of them in this episode, give our thoughts and,

you know, kind of chat back and forth. She's been married for 24 years,

so she's really been through it. She's not just theorizing here. I learned a lot in this conversation.

I think you will too, and I think you're really going to like her. So I'm excited for you to hear that

interview. But before that, some updates on my end. So like I said, I'm deep in my curly hair journey. Something occurred to me this

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