268. Listener Storytime: Building a Full Sex Life on Your Own Terms
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast
Ali Jackson
3.9 • 712 Ratings
🗓️ 6 April 2026
⏱️ 55 minutes
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Summary
This week, Ali sits down with Julia, a listener who shares her experience discovering that vaginal sex just doesn't work for her body. She walks through how that shaped her early dating experiences, including a two-and-a-half year situationship, and what it was like to tell her current partner. They get into why penetration isn't the gold standard of sex, how societal expectations create feelings of unworthiness, and what it looks like to build a full and satisfying sex life on your own terms.
In Updates, Ali shares about her birthday week, including her first dry curly cut, a birthday party, and her mom being in town for all of it.
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| 0:00.0 | I think it would be valid for a man to really want to have vaginal sex with their partner. |
| 0:04.6 | But talking through what are your priorities, what is important to you, what are ways that we can, |
| 0:10.7 | we can make sure both people in this relationship are having a good time episode of Finding Mr. Hide the podcast. |
| 0:29.7 | I'm your host, Dally Jackson, and I am bringing you my positive and practical approach to dating relationships and a whole lot else about life brought to you from my lived experience. |
| 0:38.2 | Hello. |
| 0:39.1 | Thank you for being here. |
| 0:40.8 | Thank you for being a part of my most special birthday week last week. |
| 0:44.9 | My biggest update is that it was my birthday last week. |
| 0:47.4 | No, I'm kidding. |
| 0:48.3 | I mean, that kind of is my biggest update right now. |
| 0:50.4 | But I just wanted to say a very heartfelt thank you to everyone who sent me a message, |
| 0:55.3 | wrote me a comment, just had me in your thoughts, just everything, both with sort of the |
| 1:01.6 | birthday grief that I was experiencing and also the celebration of my birthday and the love for |
| 1:08.2 | my new curly cut. And I just came back from volleyball. So we are up right now. |
| 1:12.6 | But we are using a better little hair tie to try to help with the breakage. |
| 1:18.7 | So thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. This week's episode is a listener |
| 1:23.4 | story time that I am so honored to be able to share. And I really think that it's just, |
| 1:30.9 | it's just such a wonderful story. And I especially appreciate that our listener, whose name is |
| 1:36.5 | Julia, was willing to, one, come on and share it, but also share that it's something that |
| 1:41.4 | she's still navigating. And I really appreciate that perspective. |
| 1:46.4 | So Julia opens up about discovering sort of later in life, quote unquote, in dating, |
| 1:52.4 | that vaginal sex is really not great for her body and not something that she enjoys. And how that |
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