259. Using Conflict to Build Trust ft. Anna Lecat

Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast

Ali Jackson

Relationships, Society & Culture

3.9 • 712 Ratings

🗓️ 2 February 2026

⏱️ 78 minutes

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Summary

This week, Ali hosts Anna Lecat for a conversation that reframes conflict as a powerful tool for connection rather than something to avoid. Together, the two unpack why so many of us fear uncomfortable conversations (especially in dating) and how that fear can quietly sabotage intimacy.

Throughout the episode, they’re exploring how to recognize meaningful early dating conflicts, communicate needs without blowing things up, and tell the difference between discomfort that leads to growth and misalignment that won’t work long-term. If you’ve ever worried that bringing something up might “ruin” a connection, this episode offers practical, grounding ways to approach conflict with more confidence, presence, and care.

In Updates, Ali chats about the recent NYC snowstorm, a fun concert outing with friends (plus a successful concert presale for later this year!), plus looks forward to a trip to Mexico City with Skyline this week. She also updates on podcast planning for this year and how she’s thinking about various segments as the pod evolves.

This week’s Media Mention is the podcast Good Hang with Amy Poehler, especially her January 20th episode with Jennifer Lawrence.

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Where to find Anna: On Instagram @anna_lecat, on TikTok @anna.lecat, at www.annalecat.com.

Grab Anna's Book: "Loving Conflict: Creating Collaboration Where Others See Division" Here.

Timestamps: Anna joins us at around minute 28.

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Transcript

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0:00.0	He looked at me and he said, Anna, if you don't tell me the truth about the cookie now,
0:07.2	I'm going to make this cookie for you for the rest of your life.
0:11.3	You're going to be cooking this cookie for the rest of your life.
0:15.3	And I was like, it's so sweet.
0:19.2	I'm so sorry.
0:29.1	And this cookie stayed with me, the taste of the too sweet a cookie in my mouth thinking, oh my God, this is the rest of my life. Hello and welcome to our episode of Finding Mr. Hide the podcast.
0:42.9	I am your host, Allie Jackson, and I am bringing you my positive and practical approach
0:46.4	to dating relationships and a whole lot else about life brought to you by my lived experience,
0:51.1	stuff I've been through, stuff I'm still going through, things I'm still working through and things I've worked through in the past. We're here to talk about it all.
0:57.7	Various topics, various guests, my own reflections. Our guest today, oh my God, I'm obsessed with
1:03.7	her. Her name is Anna LeCat. It's a French last name, so I'm not sure exactly how you pronounce
1:07.7	it in English. She is incredible. She is a badass. She focuses
1:12.9	on the topic of conflict. And we're talking all about conflict today. And that is not normally a
1:18.4	topic that I would be so excited to talk about, right? Like, who wants to talk about conflict?
1:22.7	Anna does. And I get why after talking to her. We get really into the nitty gritty of why conflict isn't a bad thing and what healthy conflict looks like and how you can have that in your relationships in a way that feels connective and generative and trust building and not scary or at least as little fear as possible wrapped up in it
1:49.2	because I think there's always going to be potentially some fear regarding hard conversations.
1:53.4	She gives really practical tips, exact language you can use, examples from her own life
1:58.9	and life, the lives and experiences of people that
2:02.0	she's worked with. It's just an incredible conversation. I came out of that interview just
2:07.9	feeling like, wow, wow, that was cool. And that's, I love so many of the guests that we have on
2:14.0	the show, but it just, that was a really unique experience. And I'm just super excited for you all to hear our interview and she's got a book coming out at the end of
2:21.5	March called Loving Conflict appropriately. It's not available for pre-order yet, but I will
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