258. Relatability Creates Chemistry: Feel a Real Connection on Dates ft. April Beyer
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast
Ali Jackson
3.9 • 712 Ratings
🗓️ 26 January 2026
⏱️ 70 minutes
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Summary
This week, Ali sits down with veteran matchmaker April Beyer (who has 25+ years in the industry!) to unpack why dating feels harder than ever and how to make it more human again. They talk about letting go of attachment to outcomes, loosening rigid “criteria,” and why going on more dates can actually lead to love faster than waiting for the perfect match.
April breaks down her idea of “relatability” as the real driver of chemistry, and shares practical ways to create connection on a first date without overperforming. Plus, tips for avoiding burnout and showing up as your full self from the very beginning.
In Updates, Ali is coming off of January’s surprise date night, which was also Skyline’s birthday! She also chats about an upcoming vacation plus an exciting shopping trip in the near future.
We’re celebrating five years of the pod next month!! Join Ali on Saturday, February 28th, 8pm at The Folly NYC. RSVP at https://tinyurl.com/fmh5years for free entry and access to Ali’s first come-first serve bar tab. And Patrons - check out the Patreon for early entry info! Can’t wait to see you there.
Where to find April: On Instagram @levelconnections and at www.levelconnections.com.
Timestamps: April joins us at around minute 23.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | You're not just on a date. You're in the world. And we don't have time to be civil. We don't |
| 0:04.9 | have time to clock in and clock out of who we are and take away all of our good stuff because |
| 0:09.5 | we're out with somebody who's just never going to be in our life. |
| 0:25.6 | Hello and welcome to our episode of Finding Mr. Hyde the podcast. |
| 0:33.8 | I'm your host, Allie Jackson, and I am bringing you my positive and practical approach to dating, relationships, and a whole lot else about life based on my lived experience. |
| 0:35.7 | I'm so happy you are here. |
| 0:38.3 | Couple of housekeeping reminders off the top, |
| 0:45.9 | up top. Five year podcast anniversary. It's coming up. It is in February. It's actually like almost exactly a month from right now as I sit here. And we're having a party in New York City |
| 0:50.4 | on Saturday, February 28th at the Folly, NYC. Public pod listeners, doors are at eight. If you are a patron, check out the Patreon because there are some options for early entry there. Entry is free with RCP, and there's going to be a bar tab that is first come first serve. You can RFCP at tiny URL.com slash FMH five years, the number five. And that's in the show notes as well. If you want to click there, I'm also posting it in my story. I'm going to be posted on Instagram, posts, TikTok, et cetera. I would love to see you there. It's really a listener appreciation party. I want to celebrate you. I want to thank you for listening to the pod. However long you've been listening, whether it's all five years or just a |
| 1:27.5 | couple of months or a couple of weeks, or maybe you're hearing this for the first time. You're |
| 1:31.1 | invited too. I want to celebrate with all of you. Last week on the Patreon, we did our Patreon live. We do |
| 1:36.2 | live patrons every single month. So if you're a Patreon member, you get to join live every month. |
| 1:41.2 | And we chat and go back and forth in the comments and take listener questions. |
| 1:46.9 | Last week, we had a really interesting listener question about setting boundaries with your parents |
| 1:51.9 | regarding wedding planning. |
| 1:53.6 | And the listener who asked actually came up on quote unquote stage with me and I got to |
| 1:57.2 | kind of go back and forth with her. |
| 1:58.7 | And that was super fun. |
| 2:00.0 | I love when I'm able to ask follow-up questions for our listener questions. |
| 2:04.2 | So that is one of the perks over on the Patreon in addition to our bonus episodes every |
| 2:09.1 | week and then a bonus bonus episode for the $10 tier. |
| 2:12.8 | And we also get to chat in the Discord on the $10 tier, which is super fun. |
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