260. Hot Topics #21: Attachment Patterns, Workplace Feedback, and Dating Dynamics

Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast

Ali Jackson

Relationships, Society & Culture

3.9 • 712 Ratings

🗓️ 9 February 2026

⏱️ 65 minutes

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Summary

Ali is back with another Hot Topics episode, starting with listener updates and reflections sparked by a recent listener storytime and a past Hot Topics question. She then dives into your submitted questions, covering losing interest once the chase ends, making sense of mixed signals when someone’s words and actions don’t align, receiving vague “executive presence” feedback at work, and navigating early dating when planning and consistency feel off.

In Updates, she is back from Mexico City and recapping her trip - including some brutal PMS symptoms that she’s still digging into and a very exciting plan made on the plane ride home.

This week’s Media Mention is about letting your partner “fail” vs carrying the mental load and how to handle small misses without building resentment. The TikTok we discuss is on Tiktok, from @thisisapaigeturner here: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8HGQsxu/

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0:00.0	I don't think it's about self-blame and making yourself feel bad for this potential pattern,
0:06.8	even if it is an attachment thing that's going on with you.
0:09.7	I don't think self-blame is the right way to think about it.
0:12.0	Like there's a difference between blaming yourself and judging yourself and acknowledging
0:18.2	something that's going on within yourself.
0:30.4	Yeah. and acknowledging something that's going on within yourself. Hello and welcome each other episode of Finding Mr. Hyde the podcast.
0:33.3	I am your host, Ali Jackson, and I am bringing you my positive and practical approach to dating relationships and a whole lot else about life based on my lived experience. Thank you for being here.
0:43.1	Thank you for almost five years of this podcast. I cannot believe it is about to be our five-year
0:48.6	anniversary. And if you haven't heard, I am doing a listener appreciation five-year podcast
0:53.8	anniversary party in New York City at a bar called The Folly, which I really like a lot.
0:59.5	On Saturday, February 28th, doors open for public podcast listeners at 8 p.m. Patrons can enter at 7.
1:05.9	I'm going to have a bar tab. First come, first serve. So patrons will get first dibss on it i will add a little bit more for
1:11.8	public pod listeners though at eight o'clock entry is free all you get to do is rsvp in order to get a
1:17.9	wristband for that bar tab and you can do that at tiny ural dot com slash fmh five years that's the number five
1:24.7	i'm just so excited to celebrate with all of you or some of you,
1:30.0	hopefully. I'm just, I'm really looking forward to it. I think it's going to be so much fun.
1:34.1	And I just cannot believe that it has been five years. That is crazy to me. Last week, we were in
1:38.7	Mexico City, Skyline and I. We are now back in New York City for the foreseeable future doing a
1:43.3	couple little day trips here and there, but not really traveling in earnest until April. So I'm looking forward to being home for a little bit. If you are watching the video, if you're watching on YouTube, by the way, because reminder, the podcast is now on YouTube, you will see that I am on my couch in my living room and not in my recording studio for some reason little drummer boy which
2:01.4	is what i call my neighbors um or erika made up that name actually my neighbor's son um he is home from
2:06.9	school for some reason today and he has been drumming up a storm uh normally i could text her and be like
2:12.1	hey you know but we'll just be in the living room it's fine down here the lighting's great
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