You're listening to the Overcome Pornography for Good Podcast, episode 257.

Welcome to the Overcome Pornography for Good podcast, where we take a research-based, trauma-informed, and results-focused approach to quitting porn.

This approach has been revolutionary and changed thousands and thousands of lives.

I'm your host, Sarah Brewer.

Hello, everyone.

Welcome to the podcast this week.

It's Kat Jenkins here with you, a coach here in the program, overcome pornography for good.

Happy holidays and Merry Christmas to everyone who celebrates that.

And good wishes to all in whatever you might be celebrating this season, if anything. And as we move into a new year

and looking forward, sometimes we start to reflect and start to want to set some new goals

and be thinking about what we want to become and what we want to create in the new year. So that's kind of what I want to do with you today. I've sort of been reflecting on this time that I've been working in this program with Sarah and with all of my one-on-one clients. And it's been almost four years since I've been working with Sarah. And after logging that many hours of work, I didn't go look at how many it is, but there's a lot. I've coached a lot of people. I feel like I have a pretty good idea of what works and what doesn't. And so today I wanted to share with you one of the biggest indicators that I've noticed of success. Now, is this the only indicator of success? No, of course not. But if you're willing to do this one thing, you're going to create more of what you

want in your life. I promise you that. So what is this one thing that we're going to talk about today?

Today we're going to be talking about celebrating our wins. And sometimes it's just a willingness

to acknowledge that we have wins that we've already been creating. Sometimes we don't even

recognize those because as humans,

we have that negativity bias, right? And we only see and look for the ways that we're failing or that we didn't succeed or the ways that we didn't show up. But I want us to start practicing

a winning mindset. So science calls this the winner's effect. Okay. So one win creates more

wins. And so the more we look for wins,

the more we will create them and the more likely we are to win when we look for those.

So how does this work? So when you experience a win, right, when you acknowledge that you have a

win and you're willing to see it and experience it, it triggers a biological and psychological response

that makes you more likely to win again. Did you catch the caveat there? You have to experience

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