Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's AskSeth episode,

we are talking about the difference between privacy and secrecy and how that can be a point

of friction and tension in relationships, particularly relationships that have some element

of an anxious avoidant dynamic, meaning one partner's more anxious

in their attachment patterns, the other partner is more avoidant in theirs. Because there are some

extenuating factors that each person brings to that that can make that a bit of a perfect storm

in terms of the power struggle there around trust, honesty, transparency, autonomy. It can touch into a lot of

things and it's always more complicated than it maybe seems at first glance. So that's what we're

going to be talking about today and I'm going to be sharing some thoughts on why that can be such

a sore point and also how best to approach it on both sides so that you don't

get locked in a bit of a tussle around privacy and secrecy in ways that actually just keeps you

stuck there and exacerbates the dynamic that you're in. Before we get into that conversation,

a couple of quick reminders. If you're someone who struggles with

anxious attachment, I have a really great free training. It's about 75 minutes long. You can come

along and learn more about why you get stuck really what's going on underneath the surface of

your anxious attachment patterns and behaviours and what it looks like to heal, really a realistic roadmap of what

that journey looks like and how to get there. So it's a pretty comprehensive training and

it's totally free so I would love for you to come along and I'll link that in the show notes.

Second quick announcement is just to say if you're not already, it would be super helpful for me

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