#255: Fearful Avoidant Attachment: A Deep Dive (Part 1)
On Attachment
Stephanie Rigg
4.9 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 12 May 2026
⏱️ 18 minutes
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In today's episode, we're diving deep into the fearful avoidant (or disorganised) attachment style. We're talking about where it originates, and what some of the core belief systems are that drive fearful avoidant patterns.
Make sure you're following or subscribed to the show to catch Part 2 next week, where we explore how the fearful avoidant attachment style shows up in relationships.
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| 0:00.0 | Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. Today's episode is actually part one of a two-part |
| 0:06.6 | series and it is going to be a deep dive on fearful avoidant or disorganized attachment. So you might |
| 0:12.7 | have heard me say before, whenever I do videos or podcasts on Fearful Avoidant Attachment, |
| 0:19.6 | I am met with a resounding, please do more of this, which is kind of interesting because it's thought that Fearful Avoidant Attachment only represents a very small percentage of the population. And yet, judging by the reception that these episodes get, it would seem that a lot more people are struggling with fearful |
| 0:40.1 | affluent attachment than what those official numbers would point to. I also know that a lot of |
| 0:46.1 | people who are in my audience, my community are in relationship with people who have fearful |
| 0:50.4 | affluent patterns. And so I may be coming up against this attachment pattern from a partner |
| 0:55.8 | perspective and I can speak to that for my own personal experience because my partner Joel |
| 0:59.7 | also has fearful avoidant patterns so I have spent a lot of up close and personal time with |
| 1:05.2 | fearful avoidant attachment myself. So the reason that I've decided to break this into a two-part |
| 1:10.7 | episode is simply because |
| 1:12.1 | there's a lot to cover. And in today's episode, I'm going to be talking about origins of |
| 1:17.1 | fearful avoidant attachment and some of the core wounds underpinning fearful avoidant |
| 1:22.7 | attachment. So sort of the internal landscape of fearful avoidant attachment. And then in part two, we're going to be talking about how that manifests relationally |
| 1:31.8 | and looking at how fearful avoidant attachment shows up in different relationship dynamics |
| 1:37.0 | at different stages of a relationship. |
| 1:39.4 | So how it shows up early on, how that can change as the relationship progresses, |
| 1:45.0 | and how someone with fearful avoidant patterns is likely to be in relationship with an anxious partner or a more |
| 1:51.0 | avoided partner. So that relational piece will be in part two. Today is all about the inner workings |
| 1:56.8 | of someone with fearful avoidant patterns. So if you're not already subscribed to the show or |
| 2:00.7 | following on whatever platform you are watching or listening, make sure you do so. of someone with fearful avoidant patterns. So if you're not already subscribed to the show or following |
| 2:01.1 | on whatever platform you are watching or listening, make sure you do so that you don't miss |
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