251 The Importance of Autonomy as an ADHD Adult

I Have ADHD Podcast

Kristen Carder

Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education, Mental Health

4.8 • 2.8K Ratings

🗓️ 20 February 2024

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

I’ve got something incredible to share with you. As an adult, you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. Did you know this?! Pause. Breathe. Let that soak in.

Many of us grew up in situations where we didn’t feel we had autonomy or the right to self-govern. We didn’t feel like we were in charge of our lives. So, in adulthood, we struggle to recognize that we have control over what we say yes and no to.

Why is this a problem? Because, as adult ADHDers, it takes us so much mental and emotional energy to do things we don’t want to do.

So, you stay stuck in a job you don’t like doing tasks you don’t enjoy. You feel burnt out. You spend your weekends unable to do things around the house because you’re exhausted.

I’ll let you in on my little secret. I give myself an 'out' for everything.

I tell myself I don’t have to do anything. It takes away any obligation and resentment so my brain can truly determine if it’s something I want to choose to do.

Next time you are resisting and dreading a task and procrastination keeps nagging at you, ask yourself that question. Challenge yourself to consider what will happen if you don’t do it. Is that what you really want?

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0:00.0	Welcome to the I have ADHD podcast where it's all about education, encouragement and
0:11.2	coaching for adults with ADHD.
0:13.5	I'm your host Kristen Carter and I have ADHD.
0:17.5	Let's chat about the frustrations, humor, and challenges
0:21.1	of adulting, relationships, working, and achieving with this neurodevelopmental disorder.
0:27.0	I'll help you understand your unique brain, unlock your potential, and move from point A to point B.
0:34.0	Hey what's up, this is Kristen Carter and you are listening to the I have
0:41.0	ADHD podcast. I'm medicated, I am
0:44.7	regulated, I'm here with my nine-year-olds and I'm ready to roll. How are you?
0:50.2	Welcome, come on in, grab a cozy drink or go on your walk or unload the
0:56.7	dishwasher use me as your body double we're gonna have a great time
1:00.7	together today I as you, I was sick last week,
1:05.2	and then it's just gone around my whole family.
1:08.4	Maybe I was sick two weeks ago,
1:10.1	and it hit my little guy.
1:11.8	So he is here with me in the office today. He has been walking on my walking
1:16.3	pad or watching his little YouTube videos and he's giving me a look, but he has been sworn to silence. He will be quiet throughout the next 30 minutes while we chat today about you being an autonomous adult and having agency and choice in your life.
1:38.7	It's going to be a really important episode.
1:41.5	I might say that every time I apologize if I do. I actually do believe
1:45.1	it though. Before we get started though I have not asked you this in quite a long time but I am going to
1:51.9	shamelessly ask you if you would mind just giving us a little five-star
1:57.3	rating that would be so helpful. It would be so incredibly helpful. You can do it while you listen, while you
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