252 How to Apologize (When You Have ADHD)
I Have ADHD Podcast
Kristen Carder
4.8 • 2.8K Ratings
🗓️ 27 February 2024
⏱️ 32 minutes
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Summary
This week, I blew up at my son. At the time, I felt justified (don’t cross mama’s boundaries) but the more I sat with the situation, I knew I was in the wrong.
The whole thing made me feel ick and got me thinking about the “right way” to apologize.
Note: These are tips for apologizing in a perfect world. If you’re activated, feeling defensive, or in self-judgment mode, it’s going to be way harder to put these into action.
Here’s the thing: Being human is hard. We all want safe, connected relationships. But every relationship in our lives will rupture at some point.
Fortunately, it is possible to repair even when we're in the wrong.
Because at the end of the day, apologies aren’t enough. (I know, if you grew up in a home where “sorry” was used as a power play to silence you, this is probably shocking.)
But being sorry doesn't fix everything. 🙅🏻♀️ We need to do the work of repair, and people need time before they can recalibrate and trust us again. That’s NORMAL.
In this episode on How to Apologize, I’m sharing 3 steps you need to take the next time you apologize - plus what you need to do to repair the relationship and make sure you don’t make the same mistake again.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the I have ADHD podcast where it's all about education, encouragement and |
| 0:11.2 | coaching for adults with ADHD. |
| 0:13.5 | I'm your host Kristen Carter and I have ADHD. |
| 0:17.5 | Let's chat about the frustrations, humor, and challenges |
| 0:21.1 | of adulting, relationships, working, and achieving with this neurodevelopmental disorder. |
| 0:27.0 | I'll help you understand your unique brain, unlock your potential, and move from point A to point B. |
| 0:34.0 | Hey what's up? This is Kristen Carter and you are listening to the I have the |
| 0:41.0 | ADHD podcast. |
| 0:42.8 | I am not medicated. |
| 0:44.7 | I am mildly caffeinated. |
| 0:46.3 | I've only eaten a frosted strawberry parptart today. |
| 0:49.2 | I'm totally emotionally hung over from my week of solo parenting but I am ready to roll. |
| 0:55.8 | I am ready to roll. |
| 0:58.0 | Hello, how are you? |
| 0:59.8 | Welcome to the show. |
| 1:01.0 | I have Starbucks-Stourdash on the, so do not worry. I've got my medicine sitting |
| 1:06.7 | right here next to me on my desk, and hopefully very, very soon, I will be realigned and good to go. It is a beautiful sunny day here in eastern Pennsylvania and I've got to admit it was going to be winter it might as well snow. I would so much rather it be |
| 1:26.0 | white and beautiful and gorgeous outside than gray and rainy and windy and |
| 1:32.1 | windy and freezing cold. So the sunshine makes me happy and is |
| 1:36.4 | warming my soul. So many of you resonated with my stream of consciousness episode a few weeks ago and I am really glad because I felt pretty vulnerable and I wasn't sure how you were going to enjoy it, but I'm glad that you did. |
| 1:50.8 | And I appreciate a couple of you have reached out to me for some |
| 1:54.0 | recommendations of apps on which to find friends. Gosh that's so nice. |
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