Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach,

Kara Loyenthyle.

Today we are going to talk about one of a human brain's least favorite things in the world and that is uncertainty

Which is also the nature of life

Right literally everything in life outside of us is uncertain and not subject to our control,

and some of what happens inside of us is uncertain and not subject to our control. And yet we hate uncertainty with a passion

and we go through elaborate mental gymnastics to try to avoid it, to pretend it

doesn't exist, or to try to control it even though it can never

be controlled.

And so today I want to teach you what uncertainty is, why your brain hates it, and how to handle it because the one thing you can't do is

just avoid it.

So I'm not sure if I've talked about this before on the podcast, but my last long-term relationship

ended about a year ago, and then I took some time off from dating to spend time

with myself, which was amazing. I highly recommend doing that if you have a history of always

being in relationships or just always dating and trying to be in relationships. And

so now it's been a while I'm starting to date again and I'm so I'm learning how to handle uncertainty at a whole new level.

I often compare dating and building a coaching business because they have some similarities in the way in which you have to be

absolutely committed to believing in the possibility of your goal, even though it

requires the participation of other people and you can't even predict exactly who those people are going to be and what they're going to do.

And I really have this kind of handled and down in my business, so I no longer feel uncertainty about that.

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