Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your

host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Carla Lohanthile.

Today we are going to talk about one of a human brain's least favorite things in the world,

and that is uncertainty, which is also the nature of life.

Right, literally everything in life outside of us is uncertain and not subject to our control,

and some of what happens inside of us is uncertain and not subject to our control.

And yet we hate uncertainty with a passion, and we go through elaborate mental gymnastics

to try to avoid it, to pretend it doesn't exist, or to try to control it even though

it can never be controlled. And so today I want to teach you what uncertainty is, why

your brain hates it, and how to handle it, because the one thing you can't do is just

avoid it.

So I'm not sure if I've talked about this before on the podcast, but my last long-term

relationship ended about a year ago, and then I took some time off from dating to spend

time with myself, which was amazing. I highly recommend doing that if you have a history

of always being in relationships, or just always dating and trying to be in relationships.

And so now it's been a while, I'm starting to date again, and I'm some learning how

to handle uncertainty at a whole new level. I often compare dating and building a coaching

business because they have some similarities in the way in which you have to be absolutely

committed to believing in the possibility of your goal, even though it requires the participation

of other people, and you can't even predict exactly who those people are going to be,

and what they're going to do.

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