My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by Hooker Crow to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there and just to bring it out.

This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by whatever

means necessary.

Welcome to the Black Girls Hill Podcast, where we talk about healing our intimacy disorders and

resolve trauma and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and

then others. Every episode we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns

and grow in your self-worth. I'm She Nila Shay, Love Edition coach and

Trauma Specialist. Let's begin.

Hello, hello and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girls Heel. I'm sending you all so much love on today.

So in today's episode, we're going to be talking about family trauma. It has been a minute since I've talked

Specifically about family trauma and if you are a long-term listener you know that when I talk about intimacy

disorders I talk about intimacy disorders,

I talk about how all of this is just a trauma response.

Love addiction is a trauma response.

Love avoidance is a trauma response.

The way that we fix this is to not just focus on skills and

doing relationships differently, focusing on boundaries, so we have to get at the

route. We have to look at what are the things, what are the things, what are the things that have been normalized that have made us think that these types of

relationship dynamics are healthy and looking at our trauma stories is part of it.

And so this was inspired by so many conversations that I have with my

clients about the nature of their relationships with their family and how this

aligns or how this matches to things that happen in their personal relationships,

...