My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by Hooker Crow to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there and just to bring it out.

This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by whatever

means necessary.

Welcome to the Black Girls Hill Podcast, where we talk about healing our intimacy disorders and

resolve trauma and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and

then others. Every episode we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy

patterns and grow in your self-worth. I'm She Nila Shay love addition coach and

trauma specialist. Let's begin.

Hello, hello and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girls Heel. So in today's episode, I'm going to be talking about three ways that love addicts can sabotage relationships without knowing.

So we're going to talk about the ways that you might, per love addiction, be pushing a little

bit too much of the boundaries and crossing the line from asking for what you're

needing, asking for what you're wanting, and being a little bit more co-dependent perhaps.

So we're going to jump into all three of those today. If you are currently

in a relationship where this is an issue there is always time there's always space for you to change that pattern.

And remember that you're changing these patterns not for the other person,

not that the other person can like you more or be more available for you,

but for you to like yourself. because at the core of love addiction and

a core of a lot of these intimacy disorders but especially a lot of addiction it is that core fear

of being either too much or not enough so that fear of rejection the fear of abandonment but

you're the one who holds on to that feeling so you take that feeling everywhere

you go so a lot of times as love addicts we think that if we can get the other person to love us, to choose us to fix the relationship that is going to rectify the wound that is on the inside, when it starts with us.

And so just know that by you working on yourself,

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