#240: The #1 Thing to Focus On to Heal Anxious Attachment (Ask Steph)
On Attachment
Stephanie Rigg
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🗓️ 12 March 2026
⏱️ 7 minutes
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Summary
In today’s Ask Steph episode, I’m answering the listener question: If you were only going to focus on one thing to start healing anxious attachment, what would it be?
While there are many layers to this work, the single place I’d start is building self-worth outside of a relationship.
For many anxiously attached people, relationships become the primary place where we seek security, validation, and a sense of worth. But when our wellbeing is tied so tightly to another person, it can leave us feeling anxious, reactive, and out of control.
In this episode, I talk about why shifting your focus back onto yourself — your growth, your agency, and your sense of self — can be one of the most powerful first steps in healing anxious attachment.
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| 0:00.0 | Hey guys, just dropping in with a super quick announcement before today's episode starts. |
| 0:04.8 | You might have heard me share that on Monday the 16th of March, it will be four years |
| 0:09.7 | since I first launched my signature program Healing Anxious Attachment. And to mark the occasion, |
| 0:14.4 | I am running a super special 24-hour only sale where you can join for the original course price of just $22, |
| 0:24.5 | which is almost 60% off the regular price of the course. This offer is only available for |
| 0:30.6 | people who join the wait list. It's not one that I'm going to be publicly sharing. |
| 0:34.8 | So if you're someone who struggles with anxious attachment and you're at all |
| 0:38.3 | interested in checking out my program that has helped almost 4,000 people all over the world |
| 0:43.7 | over the past four years, I would absolutely love to welcome you inside. And this is a really, |
| 0:49.2 | really wonderful opportunity to take advantage of that special offer. If you're curious, |
| 0:54.0 | head to the link in the show |
| 0:55.1 | notes to add yourself to the wait list and you'll get an email on Monday the 16th of March with |
| 1:00.0 | the link to access the sale. Okay, sending you lots of love and enjoy today's episode. |
| 1:05.6 | Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's Ask Steph episode, I'm answering the listener |
| 1:11.8 | question of, if you were going to have your time again and just focus on one thing to start |
| 1:18.2 | healing your anxious attachment, what would that one thing be? And it's a great question. |
| 1:23.3 | Obviously, supporting people with healing anxious attachment patterns is like the heart of what I do. |
| 1:28.9 | And so I have a lot of thoughts, a lot of opinions on where to focus your energy. |
| 1:33.8 | If you're wanting to start that journey, if you're wanting to have a bit of a reset and you're feeling really in the thick of your anxious attachment patterns. |
| 1:41.9 | I have a whole host of resources on my website about |
| 1:45.7 | this, but I think for the purposes of answering this question, I would focus on building my self-worth |
| 1:51.1 | outside of a relationship. So if you're single at the moment, great, maybe just try not to focus |
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