Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host.

Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach, Kara Loyenthyle. Hello my podcast chickens. It is finally sunny here in New York. It's still like

45 degrees which is just really unacceptable for Monday.

But the sun is out, which is amazing,

and I am coming off a weekend in which I did

an amazing photo shoot with one of my favorite photographers and one of my favorite

other coaches. It was so fun we ran around town and felt like you know temporary

movie stars except movie stars probably don't have to change in an SUV

with tinted windows.

But we got to kind of run around the city and take some amazing photos.

I can't wait to share with you guys and use on the website.

And anyway, that part is not as relevant to you as what I'm going to

talk about next but one of the things that was interesting about working with this

photographer and the makeup artist and the hair person right is that they don't necessarily know like what coaching is or what it's like and so one of the things I said to them over the weekend was that whenever I start working with a new client,

I tell them that there's only one rule of coaching. And the one rule of coaching is,

you are never allowed to say I don't know. I don't know is the

only thing I forbid because confusion is the most useless emotion.

Most of us think that confusion just happens to us.

We think it's a real thing.

It's like a state of being, right? We think confusion signifies something

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