You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships

and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

In today's episode, we are talking about how to shift out of a relationship rut.

So if you've been in a period in your relationship where things are feeling tense or strained, where you feel disconnected,

maybe you're fighting more than usual, things are just feeling off. And you feel that all of

your attempts at solving that, at reestablishing connection,

at talking about whatever's going on, it's all falling flat and maybe it's actually making

things worse rather than better. And I think that when we find ourselves in that,

whether it's a short-term rut or a really, really long-term one, we can feel really

powerless. We can feel at a

loss on how to shift things. And oftentimes, even though we're using all of our tools and we're

giving so much energy and attention to the relationship, nothing seems to be moving the dial.

And that can be really frustrating and confusing and can leave us doubting the relationship, nothing seems to be moving the dial and that can be really frustrating and

confusing and can leave us doubting the relationship overall, feeling like, is it always going to be

like this? Am I always going to feel as lonely as I do right now? Because I think when we're in a

relationship rut, we typically feel really lonely because we've turned our backs on each other.

And that disconnection is really, really challenging. So I'm going to be sharing some thoughts

today on how you can navigate that if that's something that you're in right now or maybe it's

just something you've been in before and you'd like to reflect on what you might have done differently so that the next time you

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