You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships

and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey, everybody.

Welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

In today's episode, I'm answering the question of whether it is better to heal

while single or in a relationship. Now, this is a question that I get answering the question of whether it is better to heal while single or in a

relationship. Now, this is a question that I get all the time. And I get this question from

people who are on all ends of the spectrum. So people who are single and wondering whether

it would be more advantageous for them in their healing to be in a relationship. People who are in a

relationship and wondering, should I actually just take some time away from a relationship and be

single so I can really focus on this away from the triggers of my relationship. And also maybe

people who are casually dating, so somewhere in the middle who are wondering whether they should tap out for a while

and really allow themselves time and space to just do the healing work, or whether they should be

really focusing on putting themselves out there to do the healing work, right? So I think everyone's

looking for the right way to approach their healing, to maximize their results, to optimize the process,

all of this stuff, right? And I understand that. I know that there can be this sense,

particularly when it matters so much to us to want to do it the right way and to not want to

sabotage or compromise our ability to achieve the transformation that we're seeking. And at the same time,

I think we do need to acknowledge where that question is coming from in us. And I'll talk a little

bit more about that as we go on. You know, am I wanting to grip and control my way to this

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