My, my job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook or crook to get

more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there

just to bring it out. This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by whatever means

to do. Welcome to the Black Girl's Hill podcast where we talk about healing or intimacy disorders

and resolve trauma and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others.

Every episode we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns and grow

in your software. I'm Shanela Shea, love addition coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin.

Hello, hello and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girl's Hill. I'm sending you all so

much love today and I hope that the sun is shining wherever you are. If you have tapped on the

title of this episode I'm not sure if it's because you're dealing with the topic or if you're

just one of our true blue listeners and so you're checking in every week to see what I'm talking

about but this week we are talking about coping with breakups from situations. I've said this

before and I'm going to say it again to introduce the topic but situation relationships, even though

they do not have an official title, the breakups, the emotional exchange, the commitment that you

have when you're in a situation if your heart broken over it is just as significant as if you

were officially girlfriend, girlfriend, boyfriend, boyfriend, girlfriend partner partner and so

it needs to be honored and it needs to be respected and a lot of times when we talk to our friends

and family members about the pain that we're feeling around a breakup, we can be told that they

don't want to hear it. They can really try to push us to be better because it wasn't official

anyways and that grieving process that you need to go through to heal to move forward your force

to skip it to repress it and so you never actually get to deal with those emotions or while you're

dealing with it you feel shame over why do I feel so upset they weren't even my man or you know

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