My, my job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook or crook to get

more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there

just to bring it out. This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by whatever means

to do. Welcome to the Black Girl's Hill talk test where we talk about healing or insumission disorders

and resolve trauma and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others.

Every episode we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns and grow

in your software. I'm Shrinella Shea, love addition coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin.

Hello, hello and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girls Hill. I'm sending you all so, so, so, so, so much

love today. I hope that you are treating yourself well and that you are surrounded by people who

treat you well as well. With that said today's episode we are talking about friendships. I am not

talking specifically about friendships in a long time y'all. Of course I mentioned friendships

throughout examples and things like that but just talking about our chosen family which are

friendships we have not had a topic on that in a minute and so we're going to do that today and

when I was thinking about what can we talk about in regards to friendships I was thinking about how

very a common theme that I've been seeing in a lot of my clients and students is working through

friendships that seem to be expired. Now the term expired may sound a bit inflammatory, right?

How can a relationship be a friendship especially be expired but there are some relationships that

run their course. They have done the job that they needed to do. They were there during the seasons

that we needed them and they provided the wisdom and the comfort and the laughter and the distraction

and the sisterhood or the brotherhood and the bonding that we needed but now it's causing more

dysfunction than not. It's causing more pain than not. It's causing more of an identity crisis meaning

you don't know am I good friends? Am I loved? Do people actually like me? Am I likeable? Am I actually

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