My, my job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hookah crew to get

more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already

there is just to bring it out. This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by whatever

means necessary. Welcome to the Black Girl's Hill podcast where we talk about healing or

intimacy disorders and resolve trauma and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves

and then others. Every episode we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy

patterns and grow in your self-worth. I'm Sheenela Shea, love addition coach and trauma specialist.

Let's begin.

Hello, hello, and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girl's Hill. I hope you're doing well.

When I tell you y'all, I'm so excited about today's episode. I'm trying not to get too excited

about topics because I feel like I kind of jinxed myself when I'm teaching.

But I think that this is going to be so helpful for y'all and I think that this is going to be

something that many of you, especially those of you who tell me that you relisten to podcast

episodes and you share them with your friends, I think this is going to be one of them. So

today we're going to be talking about the difference between secure love, love bombing,

and care taking love. And the reason that I really wanted to talk about this is because,

especially as I have grown in in relationships and also as I've watched my clients grow in their

relationships, there is often a question about what is, how do you know if someone's loved bombing

you? So, you know, the the ajo joke that talks about they're being too nice, like I want this

is weird. I wonder if this is a red flag kind of thing. So how do you know the difference between

that and when someone is actually showing up securely? However, adding care taking love as a part

of this with you being the caretaker, because I've also noticed that a lot of times people will

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