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I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode, we are talking

all about the role of social media, particularly in the

context of anxious attachment and exploring some of the ways that social media and your

relationship with it might be making your anxious attachment patterns and behaviours worse or

more challenging.

So this is one that has been requested for quite a while now. It's a topic that I'm

always getting questions about when I do Q&As on Instagram or in my DMs. I often get questions

from people around how to navigate conversations with a partner around social media usage. I think

particularly things like who your partner might be

following, their online behaviour, also things like the extent to which your partner does or doesn't

share about you on social media and maybe comparing that to how much they've shared of a previous

partner and all of the behaviours that

can spring from that insecurity. So compulsive checking, even all the way up to stalking of previous

partners, the information gathering instincts that is alive in so many anxiously attached people that I've

spoken about many times before on the podcast, social media is the perfect forum for those behaviours to

run wild and when left unchecked, I think can be really, really detrimental to our mental

health and that in turn can obviously exacerbate all of the stresses in our relationship and

it just pours fuel on the fire of what is already a challenging

dynamic to work with much of the time. And so in today's episode, I want to talk a little

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