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relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome

insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode, we are talking

all about conscious dating, how to raise your standards and date

from a place of self-worth. So for a lot of people, dating is really, really challenging,

and particularly if you're someone with anxious attachment patterns, dating can bring all of your

stuff to the surface in pretty acute ways. Everything that is inherent to the dating process,

trying to get someone to like you, trying to impress people, feeling judged, feeling like you have to

present a certain version of yourself, wanting to be liked, being afraid of being rejected,

having to deal with the uncertainty of early dating when you don't quite know

where you stand with someone. All of that stuff is like going right to the heart of a lot of

your triggers as someone with anxious attachment patterns. And so it makes sense if you do really

struggle with dating and it's something that you have a lot of anxiety and stress around.

And yet, I think we can all agree that dating from a place of low self-worth, of insecurity,

of anxiety, not only doesn't tend to yield the results you're looking for in terms of being

able to put your best foot forward and feel confident and at ease, But it actually robs you of any enjoyment of the

process. And I hear that from people all the time. You know, how do I actually enjoy dating? Because I kind of

hate it more or less. It feels like just this big ball of stress. And I wish I could skip through all of that

and just get to the part where I've met someone and we both want the same thing

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