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I'm your host, Relationship Coach Stephanie Rigg, and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey, everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

In today's episode, we are talking all about perfectionism and the role that it plays in our

relationships, how it intersects with our attachment patterns. So I've actually done an

episode a while ago, probably a couple of years ago now, on the role of perfectionism in

anxious avoidant dynamics and how relationally patterns of perfectionism can influence how we perceive our

partner from an anxious perspective and an avoidant perspective. I'll link that episode in the show

notes. What I'm really talking about today is probably more from the perspective of anxious attachment

and how our self-perception can be governed by perfectionism and how

perfectionism really is a protective strategy, like most everything else that we experience in

relationships, where it comes from what it is protecting against and how we can maybe

soften some of those patterns so that we can experience more self-acceptance, more ease,

more trust in our relationship. So that's what we're going to be talking about today.

Before I dive into that, a couple of quick announcements. My Secure Self Challenge started two days ago.

It's a 28-day challenge for building self-worth. And as we'll be talking about in today's episode,

building deep embodied self-worth is absolutely essential to overcoming patterns of self-protection

like perfectionism. As I said, the challenge officially kicked off on Monday this week,

but I will be leaving registration open until the end of the week if there are any last

minute people who want to squeeze in to this round. I run it usually twice a year. So if you are

interested, there probably won't be another opportunity to participate in the challenge until

the second half of the year. So as I said, link is in the show notes. You can go and check that

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