Welcome to the Shaline show. Shaline is a New York Times best selling author celebrity fitness trainer and obsessed with helping you live your dream life.

Today we're going to start doing some really fun stuff. Get excited because what you're going to build today is muscle.

That muscle that you need to make you stronger but it's not stronger in terms of going to the gym and stronger in terms of your confidence.

Because it's a myth to think that you don't have confidence. You've got tons of confidence.

We're just creating more and together today what we are going to do is develop one of the strongest tools in your arsenal.

If you think about the equipment that you need to get strong this is a very important piece of equipment.

I want you to think of it that way. It's called your power phrase.

Now the reason why you're going to develop a power phrase which is different from your mantra is because this is a phrase that you can quickly go to

when you're having a moment that you don't know if you can get through it. You don't know if you can do it even though you know you should.

Where you have self doubt. Where you have uncertainty. Where you're not sure of the outcome.

You know you need to do this thing. You've got to get through it. You've just got to buckle down and realize that it's going to be okay.

And so in interviewing literally dozens and dozens of people who have had to get through something extremely difficult,

that's the one thing I find in common is that they have this power phrase that immediately triggers them to remember I got this.

I'm going to get through it. So I want to share with you a story and by the way I asked permission to share the story.

My friend Doris Theos is one of the first people I met when I moved to Southern California and I was eventually got a job teaching fitness classes.

And then I went full force into it and I started managing a local bunch of clubs within a big chain here in Southern California.

And Doris was one of the very first instructors that I met and we instantly had this connection.

She was a new mom and I was a new mom. We both had a son about the same age. I think hers was like maybe a year older than mine.

And so I immediately had this connection with her and how important it was to be great moms and how both of us believed like our husbands and our family came first.

And so we immediately had that connection and even though we were really work acquaintances, I just really liked and admired her.

And then about maybe five years after I met her, I remember hearing that she was going through just a really horrific divorce.

Just, you know, without sharing too many details, really had the rug pulled out from underneath her.

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