173. Greatest Hits Vol 2. Dating, Perfectionism, & Anxious Attachment
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Kara Loewentheil
4.6 • 5.6K Ratings
🗓️ 18 February 2021
⏱️ 27 minutes
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Summary
Do you lay awake at night obsessing over why a new date or partner took 3 hours to respond to your text instead of their usual 30 minutes? Or maybe you start to feel avoidant when a new partner wants to hang out too much, and worry about losing independence in a relationship? Whatever your attachment style, this Greatest Hits episode will help you discover how it may be affecting your relationships - and how to use thought work to feel secure in your relationships.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain |
| 0:16.3 | and get what you want in life. |
| 0:18.6 | And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach, |
| 0:24.7 | Kara Loyenthyle. |
| 0:25.9 | Hello my |
| 0:33.0 | today we are continuing what I'm calling my greatest hits album. |
| 0:39.0 | I am re-releasing some of the most popular episodes of the podcast that I think are also the most important. |
| 0:48.8 | So where you all agree and I agree. |
| 0:51.1 | And so for some of you, these are going to be new. You know when I only had a few |
| 0:54.8 | episodes if somebody found the podcast and they loved it they would listen to all the |
| 0:58.3 | episodes and I'm sure some of you still do that, but also now we've been doing this for good lord almost four years |
| 1:05.2 | there's almost 200 episodes so I know that some of you who have come along later |
| 1:09.8 | don't even know what's in like the back catalog. And these are episodes also in |
| 1:16.2 | this series that are so important that they really merit and you will benefit |
| 1:22.3 | from listening to them multiple times to deepen your |
| 1:25.7 | understanding. So whether this episode is brand new to you or you originally listened to it |
| 1:31.5 | when I first came out quite a while ago. |
| 1:34.3 | I encourage you to listen again. |
| 1:36.4 | This episode is all about the ways in which dating activates perfectionism and the way that perfectionism is related to an anxious |
| 1:45.6 | attachment style. Even if you think you know about attachment styles I do talk |
| 1:50.7 | about them some in this episode but I really take it to a different level in terms of relating it to perfectionism and gender socialization and the kind of all the stuff that I'm always teaching on and the way that our brains are working. |
| 2:06.5 | So this is, you know, if you struggle with your attachment pattern, especially and if you don't know what that means, if you are someone who gets very anxious about |
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