Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain, the only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach,

Tara, Lowenthal. Hello, my chickens. So today we are continuing what I'm calling my greatest

hits, album. I am re-releasing some of the most popular episodes of the podcast that I think

are also the most important. So were you all agree and I agree. And so for some of you,

these are going to be new. You know, when I only had a few episodes, if somebody found

the podcast and they loved it, they would list all the episodes. And I'm sure some of

you still do that. But also now we've been doing this for good lord, almost four years.

There's almost 200 episodes. So I know that some of you who have come along later don't

even know what's in like the back catalog. And these are episodes also in this series

that are so important that they really merit and ban you will benefit from listening to

them multiple times to deepen your understanding. So whether this episode is brand new to you

or you originally listened to it when it first came out quite a while ago, I encourage

you to listen again. This episode is all about the ways in which dating activates perfectionism

and the way that perfectionism is related to an anxious attachment style. Even if you

think you know about attachment styles, I do talk about them some in this episode, but

I really take it to a different level in terms of relating it to perfectionism and gender

socialization and the kind of all the stuff that I'm always teaching on and the way that

our brains are working. So this is, you know, if you've struggled with your attachment pattern,

especially and if you don't know what that means, if you are someone who gets very anxious

about dating, about hearing from the people you're dating, always think something might

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