Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach,

Kara Loyenthyle.

Hello my chickens, how are you guys? How are we all doing? It's 2021. Some things still haven't changed from 2020, not surprisingly, others have.

I think it is normal for a lot of people to feel a little bit of a letdown in January.

I always think it's kind of odd that in Western society we've decided that

like New Year's is the time for resolutions and changing everything about our lives and that comes in

the middle of winter when at least in a place where winter's cold like much of the

Western Hemisphere you you know you want to like sleep in the winter like it's a weird custom to have the new year be at a time that like you naturally want a hibernate.

So obviously people who live in places where it is warm and lovely in the winter in January don't have this problem

But some of us do so I hope you are being

Gentle and realistic with yourself and remembering that time is a mental construct that humans have made up.

So I have actually been having, I had like hit my hibernation slump in December, but I have been having a lot of

breakthroughs in my personal coaching myself and getting coached by my coaches.

And it's so interesting I've been working with some coaches on my thinking around sort of my relationship life and love life and dating and romantic relationships and my partners and all that kind of stuff and I had this experience that I often have where I've been working with them now for I think six months and like there have been little bits of progress but it's been kind of feels like

fits and starts a lot and then like last week all of a sudden it was like a whoosh and everything came together my brain opened up and I like ascended to the next level of understanding.

That's really what it felt like it was like a dawning. I was like oh right I got to like this next level of depth. So I'm telling you this for a few

reasons, like number one, you know, no matter how often I say this, your perfectionist brains

don't like to hear it, but I have been doing this for a while. I have been coaching full

time for almost five years, and I did a ton of self-coaching and worked with coaches before

that, and I still have things I work on because there's

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