My, my job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook-a-cruel to get

more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already

there is just to bring it out.

This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by whatever means necessary.

Welcome to the Black Girl's Hill podcast where we talk about healing or intimacy disorders,

numbers of trauma, and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others.

Every episode we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns and grow

in your software. I'm Shinela Shea, love addition coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin.

Hello, hello and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girl's Hill. So this is going to be a

bonus episode. Y'all are going to get a few episodes actually because this came to me with a

recent event which I'm going to talk about in a second and I had already had planned to really

focus on episodes that are four healers but around topics that everybody could listen to.

At the time that I'm recording this, the episode for today is up and I shared in that episode,

I'll be talking about burnout. Burnout, we're going to have to push that a little bit later because

this when I looked at my calendar of topics, I just couldn't wait several months to to discuss it.

So today's episode is going to be about humiliation being a red flag and I think people can

read that title or hear that and be like, of course, duh. Of course humiliation is a red flag but I

think for many of us, it is something that we do not understand when someone is shaming us or

degrading us as a partner or even as a family member or a friend because our threshold is so high

because our standards are so low and that's not a knock on us. It's because people did not treat

us in the way that we deserved and those standards were never set and modeled for us so we don't

even realize when the problem is there. So it's really easy sometimes to look at what other people

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