#164: 5 Unexpected Triggers of the Abandonment Wound

On Attachment

Stephanie Rigg

Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Education, Relationships

5 • 1K Ratings

🗓️ 5 November 2024

⏱️ 23 minutes

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In today's episode, we're talking all about the abandonment wound — and specifically, five scenarios that might unexpectedly trigger your fears and insecurities around abandonment. When we think about the fear of abandonment, we often imagine scenarios where someone physically leaves us—maybe a breakup or a loved one walking out the door. But the truth is, this fear can manifest in much more subtle and unexpected ways, especially for those of us with anxious attachment patterns.We'll cover:ho...

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0:00.0	You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.
0:19.8	I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,
0:23.1	and I'm really glad you're here.
0:29.4	Hey, everybody.
0:30.6	Welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.
0:33.3	In today's episode, we are talking about five unexpected triggers of the abandonment wound.
0:39.7	So this was actually an email newsletter I sent out a couple of months ago.
0:44.0	And I got so much feedback from it, people saying that it really hit the spot for them in terms of being very relatable and that they learned a lot about themselves.
0:53.5	And so I thought to spin it into
0:55.8	a podcast episode so that I can share it with all of you in case it also has that effect on you.
1:00.6	So the abandonment wound is nothing new around here. We've talked about it a number of times
1:06.8	on the podcast and you can go back through older episodes and dive into that in a little more detail
1:12.9	in terms of the foundations of the abandonment wound. But I will give a quick recap of it here for those
1:19.8	who are maybe less familiar or could use a refresher. The fear of abandonment, the abandonment
1:24.7	wound is really at the heart of anxious attachment.
1:33.6	It is the core wound of anxious attachment. And, you know, that can be strange to hear for a lot of people, because while some of us may have some literal abandonment in our history, I would say
1:39.4	most of us don't have, you know, a story of physical literal abandonment in our childhood or our early life,
1:46.9	such as would justify this intense fear of abandonment that we experience in our adult romantic
1:52.5	relationships. And so it can leave a lot of people wondering, where did this come from and why me?
1:58.4	Why do I struggle in this way? Why am I so afraid of abandonment?
2:03.3	And I think, you know, the other kind of confusing part of the bit that catches people is
2:08.0	that while there can be a fear of, again, physical abandonment, someone leaving us,
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