#161: How Fearful Avoidant Attachment Shows Up In Relationships

On Attachment

Stephanie Rigg

Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Education, Relationships

5 • 1K Ratings

🗓️ 15 October 2024

⏱️ 21 minutes

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In this episode, we’re diving into how fearful avoidant attachment (also known as disorganised attachment) plays out in relationships. If you identify with this attachment style, you might notice certain patterns in your relationships that feel confusing or contradictory.Key points include:Feelings of instability in relationships: Many with fearful avoidant attachment feel fine when single, but painful emotions surface in relationships, often leading to blaming their partner.Impact of partner...

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0:00.0	You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.
0:19.8	I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,
0:22.8	and I'm really glad you're here.
0:28.5	Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode, we are talking
0:34.0	about how fearful avoidant attachment shows up in relationships. So whenever I talk about
0:40.0	fearful avoidant attachment, I always get this resounding feedback of more. Please talk more about
0:45.7	fearful avoidant attachment. And as I've said, I think that that's because there tends to be
0:50.1	a bit less by way of content around fearful avoidant attachment relative to anxious attachment
0:55.7	and even avoidant attachment. And I know that many folks who struggle with fearful avoidant
1:01.8	attachment are what we might call seekers, people who really want to understand themselves
1:06.6	better and so are really hungry for information that feels validating and illuminating as to,
1:12.7	you know, why they struggle with the things that they struggle with. So I'm hoping that in today's
1:16.7	episode, it's going to be a little bit free form in the sense that I'm just going to be
1:20.3	sharing tidbits of things that fearful avoidant attaches are likely to experience and struggle
1:25.7	with in their relationships, you know, how that
1:27.6	attachment style shows up, some things that you might expect. And I'm hoping that this will be
1:32.1	insightful both for people who identify with that attachment style and folks who might be in
1:37.6	relationship with someone with that attachment style and those patterns, so that you can
1:42.3	understand a little more what drives it. Maybe you can feel seen.
1:46.8	I think that many folks with those attachment patterns can feel quite broken. And so I think anyone
1:52.9	who has that tendency towards feeling broken, feeling like there's something wrong with them,
1:57.5	it can be extremely validating and encouraging to realize that you're far from
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