You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey, everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

In today's episode, I'm answering the question of,

how do I stop hoping that my ex is going to

change his mind and come back? So this is one that I got in my Instagram Q&A last week,

and I got so many responses to the answer that I shared, thanking me and saying that it was

really relatable for a lot of people. And so I thought that it was

maybe worth elaborating on in a podcast episode. So this question of when we've been through a

breakup and there's this part of us that is really holding on to hope that the person who broke our

heart, who broke up with us, we hope that they're going to come back and say,

I changed my mind, and I made a terrible mistake, please take me back. And, you know, another part

that the person who asked this question originally on Instagram included was, I know I deserve

more, but how do I stop hoping? So I'm going to be sharing some thoughts today on all of that,

on how to stop hoping, whether we should be trying to stop hoping. Spoiler alert, I don't know that

that's something that we can or should be trying to control, but certainly where we should be

focusing our energy and ways that we can really support ourselves to move forward in a healthy,

adaptive way that actually allows us to process whatever it is that we're experiencing

and move forward with grace and dignity and self-respect so that we can be best

place to embark upon our next chapter, whatever that looks like.

So that's what I'm going to be talking about today. And I should say at the outset,

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