You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience

relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome

insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, Relationship Coach Stephanie Rigg, and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

In today's episode, we are talking all about how to work through a trigger.

So there was an episode that I did two and a half years ago at the very start of this podcast.

It was one of the first few episodes and it was called Five Steps to Working Through a Trigger.

And it was a really, you know, got a lot of positive feedback at the time.

And so I've always had in my head, like, I've already done

an episode on working through a trigger. But then I sort of zoomed out and realized that that was

two and a half years ago and that the vast majority of you have joined my community since then.

And so it's probably a topic worth revisiting because triggers really are a fact of being an

imperfect, messy human in imperfect messy

relationships. They affect our romantic relationships, our familial relationships, our

friendships, our working relationships. They can really pop up all over the place. And I think

that while there's probably a correlation between how much unprocessed

wounding and baggage, so to speak, we're carrying around, I think that the more of that you have

under your belt, the more likely you are to be very sensitive and reactive, easily triggered.

Even I think when you've done a lot of work, you can find yourself in situations

that activate something within you. Maybe someone says something in a particular tone or doesn't

say something and all of a sudden you notice this big response arising in your body. And

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