My, my job is to somehow make them curious enough and persuade them by hookah crew to get

more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already

there just to bring it out. This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by whatever

means necessary. Welcome to the Black Girl's Hill podcast where we talk about

healing or intimacy disorders, members of trauma and building a healthy relationship with

first ourselves and then others. Every episode we will talk about advice you can apply today

to break unhealthy patterns and grow your self-worth. I'm Shrinella Shea, love addition coach

and trauma specialist. Let's begin. Hello, hello and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girl's

Hill. Okay, so today's episode is going to be for the love addicts. It's going to be for my,

my loved ones, my ladies who have a persistent obsession with a person, a relationship or the

fantasy of a personal relationship and mistaking it for love that there is someone or someone's

in your life that you know you need to create some space and distance from or you don't know.

Maybe they are being a little bit inconsistent but you don't know if it should you or you don't

know if it's them, you don't know if it's that they're just busy. You're trying to give them the

benefit of the doubt. You're trying to make space for things to go back to how they used to be

and you're trying to maintain your self-respect but it's not working. The more space you give to

this person, the more you try to totalize, the more you try to kind of step out and build a life

where you're not depending on their phone call back or their text back or the next time we all

get together. It works quote unquote for a minute until they text you and then you're fiending

again. Then you feel this immediate relief because you're like, oh finally we're back in contact.

Finally they're not mad at me. Finally I can be happy. Finally it's like something

within years resolved until they start to create that distance again, right? This episode is for

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