You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience

relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome

insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode, we're talking

all about boundaries and specifically why you might struggle to

set, uphold and be on the receiving end of boundaries, particularly in your intimate relationships.

So boundaries are one of those areas that I think most of us will be relatively well acquainted

with, at least on a surface level, if you spend any time in the personal development

space, it's pretty hard to scroll through Instagram, at least if your algorithm looks anything

like mine, and not encounter some sort of content around boundaries. And yet, I know from speaking

to so many people in my community, in my programs, that boundaries continue to be really challenging.

And it's something that a lot of people, I think, have a theoretical grasp of, but, you know,

the practical implementation, the doing piece still feels really challenging.

And I think oftentimes there is that gap between theory and practice in so much

of this work, which is why, you know, so much of the magic is in taking those real life steps

rather than just trying to read or listen our way to growth. So in today's episode, I'm going to be

sharing a little bit on why boundaries feel hard for so many of us, particularly those of us with

insecure attachment patterns at both ends of the spectrum. So despite what you may think,

which is that boundaries are, you know, hard for anxiously attached people, but not so much

for avoidant people. I would push back on that and say that I think boundaries are a challenge

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