My, my job is to somehow make them curious enough and persuade them by hookah crew to get

more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already

there just to bring it out. This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by whatever

means necessary. Welcome to the Black Girl's Hill podcast where we talk about

healing or intimacy disorders, members of trauma and building a healthy relationship with

first ourselves and then others. Every episode we will talk about advice you can apply today

to break unhealthy patterns and grow your self-worth. I'm Shrinella Shay, love addition coach and

trauma specialist. Let's begin. Hello, hello and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girl's

Hill. So in today's episode we are going to talk about the difference between enabling behavior

which is being disempowering to the people that we love and being actually empowering to them

and allowing them to make their own decisions. This is very hard for us to figure out

what is the actual boundary with it, what is appropriate because with the people that we love,

friendship, romantic partners, family members especially, we want to help them. In fact that's

actually the main definition of to enable to have enabling behavior when you look it up is actually

to assist to support it doesn't really get into the negative connotation that we think of and we

think of those who are enablers to poor decision making into bad behavior. However when we talk about

as those of us who are enablers the reason why that is actually not helpful to people which

basically is you're helping someone too much, you're assisting them too much, you're doing way

too much and being in their corner is because it stops them from actually being able to grow

and to make their own decisions and to mature. Thanks for listening to this week's podcast

before we get started let's take a small break to say thank you to this week's sponsors.

Thanks for listening to this week's podcast before we get started let's take a small break to

...